Life is much too short to be spent complaining and worrying. Both are tasks that people do often, sometimes every day, and yet neither are necessary to enjoy life. Sometimes they come instinctively, but most of the time people willingly invite these feelings in to their lives with no good reason at all.
Complaining is nothing more than failing to accept your reality. When you reject the way things are, you complain. You fail to recognize a situation or event for what it truly is, and thus you despise it. Sometimes we complain because we don't want to do things. Why don't we want to do them? Why can't me make ourselves want to do them? Who says we can't make ourselves? These are the three questions I urge you to ask yourself next time you find yourself complaining about something in your life. When you complain you are doing a couple of things. First and foremost, you are delaying the forward movement of your life. Secondly, every second spent complaining about some aspect of your life is a second wasted that you will never get back. Why not use that second constructively, to get over your problem? Thirdly, you are magnifying your problem by giving it significance. If you do not allow an aspect of life to bother you, then it will not. But the minute you say it annoys you, ticks you off, or irks you, you start to complain about it. Simply put, complaining is not constructive.
Worrying is nothing more than failing to accept what your reality will become. You are either afraid of what will occur, or afraid because you know what will occur. Think about this irony for a moment. We as humans not only worry when we don't know what will happen, but also when we do know what will happen. When we don't know, we use our imaginations to conjure worst possible scenarios, and when we do know, we use our imaginations to conjure up what might go wrong. Worrying is the channeling of negative thought. It is assuming that the future is filled to the brim with darkness and uncertainty. An interesting notion that many people have come upon is that you can foresee the future if you have the will and determination to change it. Thus if you have the power to control the future to an extent, you should not worry about it. Whatever is going to happen, is going to happen, regardless of your worrying.
Remember, Life is very short. You could die tomorrow. I don't say that as an ill omen, but as a reminder. Were you polite to every person you met today? If not, how come? Don't you want people to be polite to you? Wouldn't it be nice if every person you saw was smiling at you? Do unto others as you would have others do unto you. Live your life as you see fit, with the courtesy of other people in mind.
Don't complain, because it only worsens the current state of your life.
Don't worry, because it only dims your future before it even arrives.
Just live your life with the knowledge that your Death will come, and whatever you complain or worry about will then be irrelevant.
4 comments:
Complaining? Hamlet? Sometimes it just feels GOOD to gripe about something you don't want to do, but have to do!!
Sorry about that deleted comment, I didn't mean to do that...infernal technology. But here's what I meant to say:
I agree with you on many points here and your ideas are well thought-out. Life really is too short to let that which eludes your grasp or your understanding dictate the course of your actions or the paths of your cognitive turnings. We are given but one life to live and that life should be spent trying to make the world just a little bit better. If you knew me you would know that I treat everyone I come across as I'd like to be treated; as an equal. That's gotten me in some trouble, as surely some people truly do not deserve to be treated equally. If you give that sort of person even footing they'll take one step higher and strike you down. But still I give people the benefit of the doubt. I must believe in the inherent goodness of humanity, if I don't I fear that I'd become consumed with such a darkness that to wake from it would cause certain shock. So your lecture is well received with this old soul, I truly hope that more people come to the same conclusions as you.
you know i support making the world a better place. and the best way to start is by taking responsibilty for our own thoughts/actions. "stuff" is going to happen to us. we get to decide how we're going to react to all the "stuff" -- negatively (worrying and complaining) or positively (move through it with grace and determination and with optimism.)
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