You either perceive reality as good or bad. Things are inherently bad, and if good things happen you are fortunate, or things are naturally good, and bad things disappoint you. You are either upset, or overjoyed, depending on your take on the world. Do good things happen in a bad world, or do bad things happen in a good world? Either way your reaction will be the same, one of acceptance or one of denial.
If you deny that bad things will happen to you, then you will be upset when those bad things happen. If you accept bad things for what they are - which is a defining aspect of the world we live in - then you can move on easier. Expecting certain things from life is never good. Especially when you don't know if you can make them happen. Don't expect anything from yourself. Just be who you are, and live how it makes you happy, and enjoy the best times when they come. Attempt to always have good things happen, and you will be even more disappointed when they don't.
Much of life is not fun or enjoyable. This isn't pessimism. It's reality. And you have to learn to deal with the reality of the world if you wish to be a part of it. Assume that you will have less fun and more struggle in your life. Then when you have fun and enjoy life, you can appreciate it. Everyone goes through hard times. Everyone will be sad at one point or another. You will be sad in the future at some point. Maybe it's in a different state, on a vacation, on a date, or by yourself, but it will happen. Just as you know that at some point in the future you will feel physical pain that hurts very badly. But do you wake up in the morning each day fearing that physical pain? No, because it comes unexpectedly, and fearing in general isn't healthy.
So don't fear that bad things will happen, because they will. That's like fearing that you will at some point in your future be hurt emotionally and physically. It might be stubbing your toe, or someone telling you that they hate you. It's going to happen. You can't stop it. This isn't pessimism. It's reality. Learn to deal with it, so you can understand the world better and be able to be an integral part of it.
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Life is always going to be a challenge with its grace and its destructiveness ... quote from thomas moore. website: http://www.careofthesoul.net/commentframe.htm
Pessimist - Optimist - You can be both. But usually not at the same time! Good things happen, bad things happen. As wise men say, "It's just life". Sometimes you can actually choose how to feel, and other times you simply cannot. If one tries very hard,though, the light shines through. We just have to be open-minded enough to keep our eyes and heart open to see the light. You and cet are my light.
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